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Why it it that most humans prefer monogamous relationships?

Swans have these type of relationships mating for Life but the pes which are our nearest cousins such as the gorillas live in mating groups of 1 alpha male to 10/30 breeding females.
Why don't we exhibit gorilla mating behaviors?
Is there any evidence as to the mating behaviors of prehistoric cavemen?
If we did mate with alpha males only would the human species get stronger?
pes = apes

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BartSim
I am a gorilla and I'd like to add you as a trouble and strife yur melt!! who the f*** eats haddock!!!

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Samantha
Your question includes an unproven theory, and so cannot be answered. Based on the counter-examples I see, the notion that "humans prefer monogamous relationships" is not supported by the preponderance of the data -- it cannot be given as a precept here. One might argue that the institution of "marriage" disproves this. I counter that as many or more than half all "marriages" (U.S. data) are dissolved in time, leading to non-monogamous behavior on the parts of both male and female participants in such relationships.

And, as several other Answerers have pointed out, human mating behavior may be dependent on environmental circumstances. Given less physical security, we might behave more like our nearest animal relatives. Given more social freedom from religious strictures, we might choose the "holy state of matrimony" less often as well.

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Rihanna
A quick search for "monogamy gene" will reveal RS3 334,but it only applies to males. I'm not sure if there's a similar study for women.

"They found that variation in a section of the gene called RS3 334 was linked to how men bond with their partners. Men can have none, one or two copies of the RS3 334 section, and the higher the number of copies, the worse men scored on a measure of pair bonding.

Not only that, men with two copies of RS3 334 were more likely to be unmarried than men with one or none, and if they were married, they were twice as likely to have a marital crisis."

However, the original source (see below) is broken. Also, I can't find it in NCBI-genes database. Either the gene has been renamed or the evidence is not that strong to establish a link with monogamous behaviour.

As for prehistoric men (and women), I remembered answering some "sex quiz" in livescience.com and one question there was how our ancestors viewed sex and the correct answer was that both men and women 'equally' enjoy mating with different partners.

It's difficult say whether women mating with alpha males only will guarantee a better breed of human beings. Opposite genes attract, it's our instinct to go for someone with different traits than ours as this will increase the chance our offsprings being healthier.

It's easy to conclude that monogamy is just another invention of society, for convenience; that it stemmed out from jealousy, an extremely dangerous emotion, as some answerers already pointed out. But it's not the case with my old folks, who've been together for over 30 years. The reason is simple I think, it is because they are happy and content with each other.

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Evidence of prehistoric man mating behaviours:
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/article1720068.ece

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Jessica
Because they prefer quality over quantity. What's the point in having all the women in this world when you can't have Jessica Alba, right?

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dKramer
WE ARE NOT ANIMALS... first of all. We have the ability to reason and a conscience.
There is a difference between "mating behavior" and relationship. The proof of mating would be simply our existence.
Hmmm... I'm wondering what would constitute the "alpha male" in modern society? Lets answer that first and then we'll see if humans would be "stronger".
However, I think that with female humans looking to simply "breed" with a select few males we would have a further breakdown of the society.

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anonymously
It is for stability. As for gorillas, they might not be monogamous, but they live in groups.

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George
We are actually polygamous AND monogamous. You may be monogamous in a relationship but youve had more than one relationship im sure.
From an evolutionary standpoint...
polygamy stuck around because the more polygamous males naturally make more babies and pass on those polygamous tendencies to offspring.
But monogamy works in our favor because human offspring had/has better chances of surviving when both parents nurture it, therefore passing on genes that have more monogamous tendencies.
There's one idea that when humans started walking more upright it had a lot to do with making us more monogamous as well but its too much to go into detail here.
And I suppose if we mated with only alpha males we would get stronger, If those alpha males were of majority stronger. Of course stronger does not always equal better and certainly does not always equal smarter.

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Johnny
its called the lack of brain and lack of love .those swan and cave men have both of them.if u want to be like them then u can but the problem is u wont find another men like u.

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anonymously
By nature, Human's should follow the "procreation" model VS the "monogomy" model. BUT, in ancient times, they made rules so Human's do not/should not act on that impulse. (like the Bible)

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JamesM
Because modern day humans are shaped by emotions...jealousy and conditioning...many cultures praising monogamous relationships.

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smartguy
You're question should probably go in anthropology or sociology. Humans have much more intelligence that animals and we are much smarter than our ancient ancestors (cave men). We have a complex cultural system which is largely determined by our environment (resources). With the advances in medicine and technology, our survival instincts haven't been need as much. Today, all you need to keep your family going, is 1-3 children with a single partner. Rewind a few hundred years, where 40 was considered very old and in order to have 2 surviving children, you'd have to give birth to at least 7. Life was short back then and most resources weren't used as effectively as they are today. Go back thousands of years, life was even shorter and living conditions were extremely harsh. The reason we don't exhibit gorilla mating behaviors, is because we have longer life-spans and a higher successful birth-rate; not to mention a complex culture and social structure. As far as the evidence of the mating behaviors of prehistoric cavemen, you might want to study anthropology (which translates into, "the study of man"). To answer your final question, if women only went for alpha males, then the human race probably would get stronger, but not smarter and certainly not as enlightened. Enlightenment gives us ideals, concepts, laws, art and innovation which turns into culture which in turn defines our society. If we went back to the "survival of the strongest" mentality, then we would eventually lose touch with all the higher thinking that defines us as human.

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Jennifer
LOL MAYBE BECAUSE OF ADAM AND EVE
I MEAN, IT WASN'T ADAM AND EVES, RIGHT?
But you know a lot of people cheat, so not really. It's just the social pressure, and we've built it around so that polygamy looks morally reprehensible.

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Katrina
i think if alpha males were the only ones who got to breed, we would evolve physically (get stronger) but we would devolve mentally, since strength and intellect aren't related.
the mating behavior of cavemen is all about historical conjecture. in other words, anthropologists can guess, but there is little evidence to support any guess. i think the leading guess is that it very strongly resembled simian mating behavior, as you suggested.
we don't exhibit gorilla mating behavior because we aren't gorillas. we're intelligent enough to develop our own behavior (with a great deal of personal variety, i might add. i know some guys who bounce from woman to woman, while never once trying to impregnate them)
we do what works for us, and we change as needed. that's a sign of intelligence.

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businessman
After discovery and description of Ardipithecus ramidus there is opinion that humans evolved as monogamous species gradually because it was more advantageous. Here also goes explanation of cryptic (hidden) ovulation and sex throughout.
It is very interesting and deep topic and cannot be explained in one short answer.

Cut and paste from here:
"In apes and monkeys, the male's upper canine tooth usually has a prominent, dagger-like crown that is continuously sharpened (honed) by wear against a specialized lower premolar tooth. Together, these teeth form so-called C/P3 complex, also referred as sectorial canine complex (SCC). This complex was developed in the course of evolution not as a dietary adaptation but rather as as a formidable weapon in various social conflicts. Size of the canines also reflects status of the individual in the social hierarchy. Males demonstrate their canines by gaping widely at each other thus establishing their positions in the group. All fossil apes had the honing C/P3 complex.

AGGRESSIVE MALES WATCH OVER HAREM

In contrast, Ar. ramidus has dramatically "feminized" canines: they are shorter, diamond-shaped and there is no evidence of honing. The hominid canines from about 6 million years ago are similar in size to those of Ar. ramidus. Australopithecus afarensis had more robust canines but honing was absent. This suggests that male canine size and prominence were reduced by ~6 to 4.4 million years ago from an ancestral ape with a honing C/P3 complex.

Subdued shape of canines in Ar. ramidus implies that selection, probably, sexual, played an important role in elimination of agonistic behavior observed in monkeys and extant apes.

*****Thus, fundamental reproductive and social behavioral
changes probably took place in groups of hominids long before their brain started to enlarge. ********

Reduced aggressiveness in males facilitated bond formation between males and females. Males had to help chosen females in bringing up their offspring and change in sociaal organization was needed - hence monogamy.
In nature magazine authors maintain that "sex for food" at some point became a routine.

How come that females started to choose "weaker" less aggressive males?

"Possible mechanism of sexual selection might be gleaned from sexual behavior and secondary sexual characteristics of male gelada baboons. A handful of males grow rapidly at puberty, develop distinctive golden manes and become almost twice the size of the females. These males usually succeed in acquiring their own harems. After a relatively brief but intense reproductive life and constant conflicts with rivals, they are displaced by younger stronger males and never breed again. However, when many such males are present in the social group, an adolescent male may adopt a distinctly different phenotype and behavior - he remains female-like in size and appearance, does not develop the mane and acts as inconspicuous as possible. Such males hang around the big males' harems, mating with females when harem-owner is distracted. Because small and sneaky male never has to fight for females, he is likely to have longer, if less intense sexual life, and in the long run he even may achieve better reproductive success than the aggressive male. "

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Johnny
maybe physically stronger, but definitely not spiritually. and we have love, which is spiritual. that is why we prefer monogamy.

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